It’s safe being a cynic. Cynics don’t have to create. They don’t have to take chances. They can scoff at the risks that other people have taken. They can ridicule the courage others have shown in order to make some contribution to this world.
Cynics are hardly new to the world. They’ve been around since Diogenes at least, but now their day has really arrived. The Internet has given cynics an audience and that’s what they’ve always wanted. Not only can they assassinate someone else’s character, but they can do so while remaining in hiding. It is a cynics paradise. A place where they can be loud and vicious and still remain in hiding. Tear people down for taking risks while they themselves avoid taking any risk at all. They are emboldened by the anonymity and become bullies and trolls.
Other cynics just hide behind their cruelty. They create an illusion of authority by mocking others. We witness it on T.V. and radio where hosts verbally assault guests or competitors. And there is a huge population of other cynics out there who eat it up. They love to watch other people get torn down because it validates their decision to do nothing. That’s what they get, they tell themselves, for sticking their neck out.
The travesty in all this is two fold. First, cynics deny their duty of contribution. Rather than helping the world in some way, they laugh at others who try. Second, those who do not understand the motives of the cynic can be intimidated or discouraged from trying all together for fear of the cynic’s attacks.
But why? They hold no real power. They are, by nature, weak. It’s their very weakness that lead them to be cynics. Perhaps they could influence other cynics, but they too are powerless.
You are better than a cynic. You may even be capable of convincing a cynic to be relevant. After all, when push comes to shove, that’s what we all really want. In fact, it’s what we all really need. Even the cynic.
Great leadership never results from the actions of a single individual. No one—but no one—succeeds alone, despite what some people might tell you. Things get done through the actions of many, and they all must have the ability to take control and realize a vision.
The reality is that for every political superstar, corporate wunderkind, academic rock star, or entrepreneurial genius, there are scores of people behind the scenes making that illusion of the lone warrior possible. There is someone at home taking care of the family, an administrator running the office, a personal advisor giving perspective and insight, a best friend providing moral support, and on and on.
We attribute the title of leadership to one or a few, but that is a product of the conquering hero mythology we hold dear and a helpful way for us wrap our minds around cause and effect where the variables are incalculable. The reality is that leadership is a gestalt. It is the synergy of many contributing according to their own unique abilities and skills. The success of that synergy depends on how well each individual acts as a self-leader—one who owns what she does, strives to always do better, and is motivated by the notion of progress for a greater good.
Do not strive to be a solitary leader. That construct is a lie. Put your effort instead toward discovering your greatest talents and developing valuable skills so that you can be a part of a larger effort in which you are a self-leader, in control of your circumstances and in charge of your actions—one of many contributors dedicated to making the world a better place.
We are all driven to make a difference in this world. The tragedy is that so many of us have lost our way. We have become blind to our true mission by an obsession with busyness. We confuse money as a metric for quality of our contribution.
We may be sad or unfulfilled and not realize it is because we are not attempting to help the rest of the world. We may feel empty and try to fill that emptiness with stuff that has the opposite of the desired effect. It’s not a simple problem, nor is it easy to overcome, but at it’s root the problem is this:
You strive to be happy rather than striving to create happiness.
It is a problem of personal orientation in which people perceive themselves to be the recipient of the effects of the world around them rather than a participant or contributing actor. We must act to make the world better.
The more complicated part in this all is that you must gravitate toward the area where you are most effective. This can take some time and great effort, but in that way you will find your Flow.
A focus on happiness—mottos and mantra that push you to maintain a positive attitude—will be problematic if you are not foremost insisting that you make significant and meaningful contributions to the world around you. It is our duty as human beings.
The reward for fulfilling that duty of contribution is peace of mind, enlightenment, and yes, happiness.
Whether you’re dealing with Earth shattering matters that need your response ASAP, or a nagging family problem, The 4 Ds of Problem Solving is the framework you need for getting to the solution.
- DEFINE your problem. Thoroughly consider the situation or issue. Don’t assume you know what the problem really is. Drill down to the root cause by repeatedly asking yourself or stakeholders for explicit explanations as to why things are done the way they are. Then clearly articulate the problem by writing it out. Do NOT keep it in your head. Write it out.
- DECIDE whether this is the most important and urgent problem for you to spend your energy on, and decide on what potential solutions will create the greatest positive impact. You don’t have to have the fully formed solution yet, just general notions of the best routes forward. Remember that the answers to problems are often found in numbers, which can also help keep things objective.
- DESIGN the best possible solution to the problem. Be creative and novel, but make sure the solution and the design are also relevant. In problem solving, form must always serve function. Don’t get locked into old thought and common perceptions. Design like an innovator.
- DEPLOY the solution. Make it happen by being prudent and savvy. Prudence dictates caution and consideration for others. Don’t let your excitement overpower you, causing you to rush in before you’re ready, sabotaging all you efforts. Savvy is how you get buy-in. Even if you seemingly hold all the cards, make sure you get other people to believe in your ideas and feel the excitement you feel about the solution. Savvy isn’t about selling people on an idea. Savvy is about synergy and forging mutual respect.